Seduction for Men

Converting a female friend

2008-04-29T10:47:00.003+08:00

Have you ever been attracted to someone who wasn't even your type physically?

Like I have this friend Nancy. And when I met Nancy, I didn't think she was that appealing. I had little feelings for her whatsoever. But then when I started to get to know her, I started to notice certain things, like the first thing I noticed is that she has an absolutely great sense of humor. I mean have you ever been around someone who makes you laugh so much, just the minute you see them you're already waiting to laugh, like all they have to do is look at you and you bust out laughing.

The other thing I noticed about her is that she really likes herself, I mean her attitude was, hey, being with me is the best thing that could possibly happen to you, you had better take advantage of it right now before that chance slips away forever.

Then one day, I found myself looking through a new set of eyes. You ever look at someone through a new set of eyes. Its like I look inside and, OH MY GOD, when I look at her like that, this person is really beautiful.

I think when that happens to someone with me in my way of thinking what I think happens is when you go inside yourself, and you find those values that are most important to you in a relationship and you think about the qualities in a personality you want your ideal lover to have and then you just find those and link them up with the person you're talking to, in such a way that you begin to think things differently, you then start to look through the eyes of attraction, cause I think when you look through the eyes of attraction, look through the eyes of desire, that's when you can make that connection, and really feel that growing.

Now that whole process can take weeks, even months of getting to know someone. But I think the real wonder is to find yourself really wondering what would it be like to surrender to the magic of that instantaneously and make that connection . . now and really feel that attraction to someone. Wouldn't that be great? Isn't it just great to experience that and let it happen?

Took this from fast seduction 101 website. Pretty useful for converting the beautiful female friend or colleague into a potential lover.

What Time Is It?

2008-04-14T17:07:00.001+08:00

What Time Is It?

by James

How many of you guys wear a wrist watch?

My guess, almost all.

Why do you wear a watch?

That's easy, to tell time.

Here is a thought that will make you wonder if it's really worth having a watch on your wrist.

Most of us, have a hard time talking to girls, or starting a basic conversation. As you might have heard, or read many places before, there are many ways to start a conversation. Carry a book, wear an ornament that somewhat stands out, dress differently than the rest of the crowd (suit at a party, instead of jeans).

What you should also do is look for women doing the same things so you can strike up a conversation about it.

The reason I ask you if it's really worth wearing a wrist watch, is because it gives you a reason to talk, to converse with strangers. I know there are wall clocks almost everywhere you go, but ignore them and look for people.

Making small talk is the first basic skill you need to walk up to a girl and try to get her phone number or a date.

If you don't have a watch, and need to know the time, or see a girl you think is cute and doesn't seem too busy, ask her the time and continue from there. It's an ice breaker that isn't as cheesy as a line but very functional.

We are all slaves of time. Might as well use that fact to meet others.

Source @ http://www.sosuave.com/

Teasing and Flirting

2008-02-19T06:53:00.006+08:00

Uchiha Itachi said...

Thanks for this article!

I suppose the toughest part would be point one: To be able to chat with her normally.

I happened to observe a male colleague and a female colleague, both attached, but they like to flirt with each other. The male colleague always tease and make fun of the female colleague. But the female colleague seems to like it.

I tried to simulate the guy colleague's actions on another female colleague, who is single. And she also seems to enjoy it. But the problem is, I don't feel anything for her. To actually simulate these actions on someone I am interested in seems to be quite difficult.

Lastly, is it even correct to tease and make fun of the gal, which you didn't mention in the article? What you mentioned was only using humour, which I also tried using.

Regards,

There is nothing wrong in teasing and making fun, in fact it is encouraged, as long as it is in good fun, there is nothing wrong with it if you and her both enjoyed it right??

Tease and making fun, are just part of the flirting and of course as long as you dun cross the line by making some hurtful remarks, it is fine. Then you can work some light touching into the flirting to bring the both of you closer, a simple touch on the arm or shoulder may not mean a lot but touching has a way of making someone feel closer more real.

Ultimately, you got to work some deeper and meaningful talk into the interaction, like what I have given in my first post about the Incredible Connection, it is to covertly influence (almost like covert hypnosis) her thoughts, you are the person leading her thoughts and imagination, it is a very powerful tool, can be done after some flirting or can be done during a date, and most Singapore women have yet to met a man who is skilled (romantic to them) enough to say this, and most will feel this weird sense of knowing you forever, since you did weave the time distortion into the pattern.

Hopes that give you a better idea.

Actions Are More Attractive Than Words

2008-02-17T23:00:00.003+08:00

by PracticalHappiness.com

One of the most common mistakes that men make, that can literally kill attraction in women, is bragging.

"I am intelligent."
"I am smart."
"I am rich."
"I am honest."
"I am trustworthy."
"I am successful."
"I have a great sense of humor."
"I work out a lot."
"I like to play hard and work hard."

Avoid making such claims. You will probably come across as arrogant, and turn women off quicker than bad breath.

Instead, if you want to communicate certain good qualities of yours, do it INDIRECTLY. Do something that would make a woman infer that you have those great qualities.

Instead of saying that you are funny -- tell her a joke.

Instead of saying that you are smart -- share your view or opinion on some controversial political or philosophical issue.

Instead of saying that you like to work hard and play hard -- take her out for a run/hike or to play tennis.

Instead of telling her that you like classical music -- put your favorite CD on for her in your car or at your place.

Actions speak louder than words and they are sure more attractive to women than words.

Keep this in mind and you will get much further with the women you meet and like.

Visit: http://www.practicalhappiness.com

Source @ http://www.sosuave.com/

This article talks about how not to boast about yourself, and let your actions to express your finer qualities. Remember do not be a NATO, but be a man who walk the talk.

Happy Valentine's Day Video

2008-02-16T22:58:00.001+08:00

Music : The Righteous Brothers - Unchained Melody

FOR YOU, MY VALENTINE :
White birds (W.B Yeats)

Such a sweet video made by someone for his/her valentine.

Always Watch the Eyes

2008-02-16T21:26:00.002+08:00

by Thundercat

The eyes are the window to the soul. They will always betray what a person is thinking, if you're deft enough to pay attention to them.

I'm going to share some secrets about eye contact with you that are going to help you meet women like crazy. I hope you're ready for them, because I'm really spilling the beans here.

Are you ready for it?

Here they come…

Secret #1: The Vertical Scan

This is a major body language cue, and one that is hard to pick up if you're not paying attention. Think about a woman you've seen that you found attractive. What did you do? Catch one look at her face, then looked down over her body, going from head to foot, right?

In short, you were checking her out.

Women do the same thing. When they see a man they're attracted to, their eyes will go from his face to his feet, because they want to see the whole package.

When you make eye contact with a woman, look at what her eyes do. If they flick downwards, guess what? She just checked you out!

She liked what she saw in your face, and wanted to see the rest of you. It doesn't matter if she looks away immediately afterwards, because she was attracted enough to you to check you out. That, my friends, is a major signal that she will be open to you approaching her (especially if the vertical scan is followed by a smile!).

The only problem with this great signal is that it's so easy to miss! Women you haven't noticed yet may have already done it. Also, it's such a quick action, you can easily miss it if you're not careful.

So when looking for the eye scan, always pay careful attention!

Secret #2: The Horizontal Scan

This is one of my favorite body language cues, because when this happens, you know you're in the home stretch!

This usually occurs after you've been talking to the girl for a while, you've successfully attracted her, and it's time to kiss. When you look deep into her eyes, you'll see them flicking back and forth as she looks from one eye of yours to the other, trying to get a read on you.

When you see this happen, go for the kiss right there! She's ready for it!

Secret #3: Dilated Pupils

I've mentioned this one before, but I'll reiterate it here. A woman's dilated pupils is an unconscious attraction response. The wider the pupils, the more attracted and excited the woman is getting.

You'll know what you're doing is working when you look into a woman's eyes and notice the black iris part is rather large. This is commonly referred to as the "Doggy Dinner Look," that you'll see in cartoons when a dog is silently begging for it's master to feed it.

The problem with dilated pupils is that other factors can affect its interpretation. For instance, if it's dark in the room the two of you are in, her pupils will naturally dilate to let in more light.

By the same token, if the woman is drunk or using drugs, her pupils will be dilated as well, because other stimulants are working to excite her body. So be aware of the different factors at play when reading your target's pupil dilation.

Secret #4: The Eye Contact Test

I think you're really going to like this secret, because I'm going to share a little trick with you that I've developed that really makes it easy to meet a woman.

Too often, guys are simply too nervous to approach a girl because of the extreme amount of uncertainty involved. Think about it. What runs through your head when you want to meet a woman?

Am I her type?
Does she have a boyfriend?
Will she find me attractive?
Maybe she's too busy to meet anyone.
Will she be receptive to me talking to her?

I'm sure you can think of a 100 more things that run through your mind when you see an approach opportunity come your way.

If you get scared or nervous when this happens, it's because of one thing:

UNCERTAINTY.

You don't know how the girl you want to approach is going to respond! So your scared because the outcome MIGHT be negative!

Well, worry about this no more, because with this little trick I'm going to share with you, you'll never have to worry about a negative reaction again.

This little trick is so simple, ANYONE can do it! And it's a 100% fear free tactic.

We all know that eye contact is important, but something funny happens when we make eye contact with another person. We become COMPELLED to respond to them in some fashion. When it comes to women, you can use eye contact to find out if she's open to meeting you. In fact, in a way, she'll be opening YOU!

So here's what you do...

The next time you see a woman you want to meet, LOCK your eyes on her! Seriously, just stare at her eyes, even if she's not looking at you.

When people are out and about, they will usually look around to keep aware of their surroundings. This is an unconscious thing we all do. Eventually, the woman you're locking onto will look around to scan the area.

When she comes to you, her eyes will invariably meet yours, and you'll be locked in eye contact.

When that happens, simply SMILE at her.

If she smiles back, guess what? She's OPEN TO YOU MEETING HER. If she doesn't, then move on to someone who is.

And when she does smile back, say "Hi!" And if she responds, you're in! Go right into your opener.

I like to use this tactic in low-key situations, like grocery stores, coffee shops, book stores, etc. Even though it can work just as well in bars (as long as the light is high enough that she can actually SEE you!).

Often times, after you smile, the girl herself will say "Hi!" and then the rest is easy.

The next time you go out, do this to every woman you see. Lock your eyes onto them and see what happens. I guarantee you, you'll be surprised by the results.

This is an excerpt from The Art of Approaching. If this sounds like something that would be helpful to you in your quest to meet and date more women then...

This article talks in great details about observing what the woman's eyes are doing to gauge her interests as well as getting a cue as to what to do next in your approach or pickup.

Source @ http://www.sosuave.com/articles/watchtheeyes.htm

對女性朋友的情人節邀約

2008-02-13T12:31:00.004+08:00

This is something I translated for my Taiwanese friends, and perhaps friends from Hong Kong and China can use them too.

這是我從我上一張文章翻譯過來的．

我不會每一個字都翻譯，因為有點長．

基本上，我是給你一段台辭跟她講．你可以在＂碰巧＂的情況下遇到她，她又剛好情人節沒有節目．這時你就可以對她說．

＂你有沒有認識一個本來就不是很吸引你的人，不過再認識他一段時間後，卻對他的想法開始有所改變，審支以全新的觀點對他另眼相看．

我是覺得有時人不知到自己到底要的是什麼，至少在心理不是很清楚，不過當你靜下心來的往心理深一層去找，就在那一個最蔭庇最不為人知的心理處，找到你真正所要的對象，渴望實現的夢想，你的對象可以帶給你的感覺和他所擁有的優點與特質．（在形容這些時，記的手要很不經意的指向自己．）

比如說有一天，他走了過來想約你出去，說：＂我很喜歡你，你是否願意在情人節和我出去？＂（記的用深情的眼神看著她，對她說）

當你正在驚喜時，你開始仔細的看著他的臉（用你的手在你自己的臉的範圍平空畫起一個相框），慢慢的找到你夢想對象的優點與特質，有心理又想著為什麼沒有早點發現他的存在．又當你在看著他，聽著他溫暖的聲音，你想象著在未來的幾個星期的某個約會里，兩人手牽著手在海邊的沙灘上漫步，慢慢的享受著溫柔細膩的初吻，在漫漫長夜裡濃情密意地享受著對方的溫暖，你躺在他溫暖和強壯的懷里，直到天明，兩人一起看著日出和被第一道溫暖的陽光照射著．再回想著今天就是你做出了能夠讓你幸福的決定．＂
＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝＝
對話完畢

如果她看起來好像很享受的樣子，你就對著她說，＂我很喜歡你，你是否願意在情人節和我出去？＂

這招就是要讓她先幻想到跟你去約會的完美，就是先打一打廣告，再給她購買的方法．

Asking a female friend out for a Valentine Date

2008-02-12T13:16:00.000+08:00

I know Valentine Day is coming and a lot of you are having trouble finding a date, and some of you might be even secretly having a crush on your female friend or colleague, but afraid to ask her out due to the fear of rejection where you might lose your friendship and even your job.

Don't worry, I am here to help, to give you a relatively safe and non-confrontational way to let her know how you feel and changing her thoughts of you from being a platonic friend into a possible romantic interest. You can maybe during lunch or tea-break, "happen" to bump into her and casually ask her about her Valentine Day plans.

Now, assuming she has no plans, and this is your cue to use the following to say to her.

You: Have you ever met someone in your life who you weren't attracted to but then, for some reasons, you suddenly found yourself starting to think things differently and see them in a whole new way?

With me, I think sometimes people dun really know what they really want, at least not crystal clear in their heart, but then it clear to you what you want when you go searching deep in your heart, into that secretive part where you do not usually show it to people, and brings back all those desires, dreams and feelings you experienced before.

I mean like one day, someone walk up to you out of the blue and ask you out for a date saying, "I really like you, will you go out on Valentine Day with me??" While you were pleasantly surprised, you start to look at his face intently (gesture a frame around your own face) and starts to find the same qualities you hold so dear, in him as well, and was wondering why you never noticed him earlier. And as you are there looking at him, hearing the warmth of his voice, you can even imagine being with him on a date few weeks from now, taking a slow walk on a moonlit beach, sharing that first soft and gentle kiss, making out on the sandy beach and sleeping in the warmth his strong and muscular arm till the morning dawn, where you first basked under the gentle warm of the first sunlight. And then looking back on today as having been the day of making the important decision to go out with him and giving yourself a chance for that wonderful date to happen.
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END OF DIALOUGE

And if she appears to be enjoying what you described, you can go ahead and ask her out the exact same way, ""I really like you, will you go out on Valentine Day with me??"

This is call describing to her all the good things that will happen if she decides to go out with you, instead of just asking her out without letting her get a sample of what is in stored for her.

Good Luck!!!

Valentine's Day Blues

2008-02-11T21:28:00.000+08:00

It is not even Valentine's Day yet, and I seeing emo men everywhere, yes... fully grown emo macho men whining all the time about not having a date or getting rejected for the first approach which he think is a good idea to do it for Valentine day.

Sometimes I really wonder if they ever use their big fat brain of theirs to even think about the situation. Valentine day is a very important day for women, it usually means either they have it or they dun, and I mean a successful relationship or a ton of suitors, depending on what kind of take she has on Valentine day.

But if you have never approach the woman for date prior to Valentine Day, dun ever think of doing it unless she has been dropping hints. First it puts way too much pressure for her to choose, so she usually got to reject you fast if she is waiting for someone or she already got plans. Try approaching for a date on a different day and you might get a different answer as well, since she is in no pressure to reject you.

In short, Valentine Day is the worst day to ask someone out for the first time, which for some reasons, many guys actually think it is a darn good idea.

Valentine's Quest (Poetry)

2008-02-10T21:32:00.000+08:00

Valentine's Quest

February Fourteen, the day to dread.
When you have no one but your hand.
You ask desperately around, and all you get is no.
You just want to be like the rest.
Paying for expensive dinners, and buying overpriced roses.
Getting a piece of the juicy action at the end of the night.
But all you can do is drown in beer and loneliness.

The media is saying love be praised.
The restaurant is saying suckers be praised.
The flower girl is saying another sucker coming my way.
All the money you spend, all the effort you took.
All is for naught, all is for just a taste of sex.

Clock is ticking, time is short.
Need a girl to date, and a need to get laid.
Need to lose the name, lose the stigma.
Virgin is the name, praise be the power of sex.

Finally found a girl, who nobody dates.
She is nice, but she is no beauty.
She got ass and she got breasts.
Praise be the power of the women.
Women that all men want to be with on the day of Valentine.

You had your dinner, you bought her roses.
You bring her to a motel, paying for a 2 hour room.
She is blushing and you are steaming.
She loses her clothes, you loses your pants.
Within 5 minutes, she stand up and get dressed.
Lying on the bed, shagged and tears flowing down your cheeks.
She walks out of the room, with an annoyed look.

"What kind of man you are, cannot even last for a minute!!!" is what she said.
You are both sad and happy, sad that you cannot make it last longer.
Happy that you are finally no longer a virgin and she forgot to collect her fees.

Conversation with women 101

2008-02-09T22:30:00.000+08:00

You must always find something for her to talk about, and keep throwing back questions when she keep talking about herself.

Can try complimenting about something she wear which looks genuinely nice, and asking her where and how she got it... or even why did she like it...

Show a genuine interest in the person rather than in her body..... look at her in her eyes... and keep a slight smile like you are looking deeply in her eyes.... and if she catches onto you looking at her eyes... You can try the following on her.......

You: "Oh my, what beautiful eyes you have...... it is as if I can see the real you in it.... you know the "real" you that you do not easily show people. You know sometimes... there is a need for a us to put on a mask of ourselves, the one that is socially acceptable for everyone during the day, and all we ever wanted when we get home is to be ourselves and be able to find that someone that we can really share our real person deep inside. With me, that is when you can really relax and be yourself as you find that you are in a very comfortable space of familiarity."

Her: Yes, that is exactly how I felt each day, so sick of all the pretense.

You: "Have you ever met someone where you feel this incredible sense of closeness with?? It is like as you are with him, you feel like you are in safe hands knowing that he will always look out for you everywhere you go with him. And from the warmth of his voice, you feel comfort and affection towards him, and you want to be close with him every moment of the day, knowing that he is the one you are looking for to be with. And as you look upon him, looking closely at every details of his face (motion around your own face) and burning it within the deepest part of your mind where you want to remember him for as long as you can and for as long as you are with him."

Her: Yar, sounds incredible. (Doesn't matter what she says here)

You: "And maybe even few years down the road, you can still see yourself with him, and bonding even closer with him since the day you met him, and then looking back on today as having been the start of this incredible sense of affectionate closeness, not just emotionally also physically, you want to be with him, be one with him like it was part of destiny."

She will probably be very touched or very excited, anyway I can only say good luck from here on, she will want to be with you, if any of that got into her mind.

The Secret of Confidence

2008-02-09T09:29:00.000+08:00

I posted the last article link to a popular local forum, and it finally get some attention, although it did get some negative remarks. And for those who replied negatively, I thanks for your remarks, and frankly speaking, this blog is still pretty much in its infancy, I have yet to find the balance between the amount and level of content that is suitable for everyone.

But then for most people who actually did a search in Search Engine and found my blog, I am quite sure 2 words are high in your list and that is, "Sex and Women."

I can hear you going, "Sex Sex Sex... I want sex with women.... and more women.... NOW"

I am still at the initial stage laying the groundwork for any men new to the dating or seduction scene, some even think the tips on my blog are total bullshit. For that I dun blame them since, the first article on Speed Seduction can seems this way to the untrained mind, and it is really too advanced for anyone who doesn't understand it.

So I am going to start collecting quick tips from websites, put them together in my article and probably explained the rationale behind it.

And I found this very important quick tip, although it is quite long. Source is from www.sosuave.com

The Secret to Confidence

by Ivan

If you have been reading this site, you will have come across this mysterious concept "confidence" over and over again.

You will probably have tried to turn your 'inner state' into something that makes you feel 'confident'. You may have tried various postures and gimmicks, routines and tricks, trying to appear 'confident'. You might have repeated affirmations to yourself...and a million other things, to no effect.

You may have despaired and thought "...this is BS, confidence is something you have when you KNOW you are wealthy, good looking, successful, attractive....you can't fake that..." and given up.

But you are wrong. That isn't where confidence comes from. Nor does it come from "self esteem" or "self belief" or "self acceptance" or "self" anything.

So where does it come from?

It comes from doing the right thing.

It comes from knowing that you are acting morally, rightly, ethically, and in accord with your most deeply held values.

If what you are doing in your life, including in your social life, and romantic life, at some level deep down clashes with what you think is right, then you will be in a state of "cognitive dissonance". And that leads to worry. And worry leads to anxiety.

When you do something for appearances sake, for your ego, to get ahead of others, or for your own selfish gratification AT THE EXPENSE OF DOING THE RIGHT THING then you have had a lapse of moral self control. At some level deep inside, you will know this. And you won't feel good about it, about yourself. You won't feel "confident".

You will feel like your actions are out of control with respect to your values and your beliefs, and this means that your life in the most important sense (that is, the sense of doing what really matters to you ethically and spiritually speaking) you are not in control.

And not only that, because you have had a lapse of control over the way you handle the important matters in your life and the lives of those around you, you lose some respect for yourself.

So, now you feel a loss of control AND a loss of self respect. So, you go looking for it from others. You look for others for respect, you look for others to take charge of things. And when you feel slighted, it hurts too much to bear, and when things don't go your way, you lose it completely.

But.....if you make the hard choices. If you turn down selfish short term gain for the sake of your ego or your immediate pleasures in order to do the right thing, you feel a sense of control and you like what you've done. You have self respect. You feel peace of mind, comfortable with your decisions and your actions. You don't go looking for outside validation so much. You don't need people to validate that you are behaving right. You don't need others to worship you are your successes. You don't need to. You know you are a good person. You feel like an adult, mature, a man, a REAL man, a man that has the courage and control to do the hard but right thing.

And THIS is confidence.

You have to take a hard look at yourself. Are you really comfortable with tricking women with acts and gimmicks? Do you really believe in sex without commitment? Do you really believe that casual sex is such a great thing, or whether it might actually dilute the meaning of a real love affair you may have one day? Are you really happy with how you are behaving toward your friends? At work? At school?

So, my challenge to you is this. Become a morally serious human being. Become a moral man. Forget the quest for confidence for a while. Instead seek to do what is right. The rest will follow, and your maturity WILL impress those you have wished to impress.

Ivan

Confidence is essentially the basis from which you are able to interact successfully with women, so it is one of the most important trait missing from men who are unsuccessful with women. Do remember this, women love a confident man more than anything else. So when you are confident in your approach and interaction with a woman, you already won half the battle.

The Shopping Approach

2008-02-09T00:18:00.000+08:00

by Lone Star

My dad and I were shopping for sunglasses the other day at Dillards, and though it's a bit awkward to witness your own father flex his DJ skills, I must admit I was quite impressed.

I signaled to him that a foxy brunette was coming up the aisle, and he went to work: "Excuse me... what do you think?", and put on one of the shades he was considering. "Would you buy these if you were me?"

Of course she giggled, gave her opinion, and they engaged in small talk.

To me, this approach made perfect sense:

a) Straight guys supposedly can't shop for themselves, so a female opinion is actually useful.

b) Considering women love to shop, you'll always be able to have plenty of opportunities to use it - because there's always going to be an abundant supply of women in stores, just like there will always be fish in the sea.

Good luck.

Someone was asking about approaching women in places like shopping centre, so I found this very interesting article from www.sosuave.com

It talks about a very similar situation, and how you should go about the approach. And of course, to end the approach nicely, you should attempt to get the number and how exactly to go about asking for the number without sounding stressed about it, you should look forward to the next article.

Explaining the technique used in my first article

2008-02-05T14:32:00.000+08:00

Why I have left out the explanation is just to give you a taste of how weird and 'gay' it might seem to you at first glance. It is in fact weird to most men by any standards, but it is definitely not so to women, since their brain is wired very differently from men. And you speaking this type of language is like a Martian speaking Venutian, it sounds absolutely weird to a fellow Martian but it makes much sense to a Venutian who are the women.

The piece of script is part of what I called patterns, it is very much a part of what is much larger known as Speed Seduction, and nope I am not selling you any books or course on it, just sharing with you what I have discover and learn. There is definitely this guru who develop it and selling it, you can go google for it and buy it.

You: “Hey XXX, have you ever spoke to someone before and have so much fun talking to the person (motion your hand as if you pointing to yourself subtly) and feel an incredible connection between you and the person in front of you (self-point again).”

Her: No. (It doesn't really matters what she say here.)

You: “It is like you can almost feel this energy going between you and him(motion your hand between her and you), like there is this cord of light connecting you and him, where the rest of the world is slowly fading away, and you are in that little bubble of light and space where you only see him and hear him, and you hang on every word he speaks. And as that cord began to glow, with the warm of the connection, maybe you were even able to imagine a time in the future, say a few months from now, and still feeling that incredible connection, and looking back on today (self-point) as having been the start of everything wonderful to come in your life?”

Her: Oh yar.

You: “It is so interesting that how some people (motion to her and you) can just have do that and let all the good things happen naturally between them (motion between you and her). But for me, it will take longer, but I do find that during the course of a dinner date where you spend quality time and really listen to someone (self-point), and you start to notice and appreciate those values and qualities in them that you hold so dear to yourself..... With me, that is when you can make that connection (motion between you and her) and really feel that growing bond.”

Her: (She probably be thinking about that dreamy date already.)

You: “Hey I really got to go now, but I really enjoyed talking to you, what do you say we get together for dinner sometime??”

Speed Seduction is mostly based on NLP, and this pattern above is taken from http://www.fastseduction.com/.

It is loosely based on the Incredible Connection Pattern and I further write out some of it my own style, and it is meant for use when you first met a girl, and to create the sense of Incredible Connection she feels for you, and to further distort the sense of time of that connection, and even suggested to her that good things will come of the connection, it is meant to do one thing, to make her feel good with you, to feel connected with you.

Asking the girl out for the first time

2008-02-04T22:29:00.000+08:00

Of course, before you can do that, you need to have a target of your choice, and who exactly you wanna choose is entirely up to you, it differs from each person's taste. For some, it might be the legs, or the assets on her chest, or even her face and eyes, some it could be how she laugh. It is just a little something that tugs at your attention span each time she appears. Sound logical to you so far?? Of course it sounds logical, except for the fact it is not logical at all about your crush, it is more emotional and physiological than logical.

Now as you look at the girl you have a crush on, you feel your heart beat faster, you face feels flushed with blood, then you imagined yourself being with her on a date doing all sorts of things together. Then you imagine yourself walking down the isle and saying, “I do.” and putting the ring on her finger, then you might even go the extra imaginative mile by imagining you and her making beautiful babies, and of course you are not giving the process a miss as well.

I can only say to you, “WAKE UP YOUR IDEA!!!!” What the hell are you doing by falling in love with her all by yourself while she is probably out there dating other guys, and possibly sleeping with them. Let's face it, YOU ONLY WANT TO DO ONE THING WITH HER, and that is you want to be that man sleeping beside her.

Now that you got the facts right the feelings you have for her, you got to know it is more physical than emotional. You probably be asking how to have that piece of your pie and eat it. Well you definitely can't buy it from her, if you can, then you probably looking at a hooker.

Now I am going to tell you how to go from not knowing her at all to getting that first date. Of course, I take that for a girl that you have a crush on, she is probably someone you see regularly but unable to talk to for whatever reasons you have.

You need to be able to speak to her without her thinking you are hitting on her. And the easiest way to do that is to do some chatting with her, and that I means talking about something common between you two or the environment, like the weather or the latest holiday destination taken by someone in your office (if she is your colleague).

At this point where you are just chatting normally, you need to build up rapport and throw in some humor as well, it is all to make it a fun experience, so that she will look forward to talking to you again.

Here comes the killer technique, the part where you ask her out, in fact I am going to give you something to based on, so that you know exactly what you are going to tell her.

You: “Hey XXX, have you ever spoke to someone before and have so much fun talking to the person (motion your hand as if you pointing to yourself subtly) and feel an incredible connection between you and the person in front of you (self-point again).”

Her: No. (It doesn't really matters what she say here.)

You: “It is like you can almost feel this energy going between you and him(motion your hand between her and you), like there is this cord of light connecting you and him, where the rest of the world is slowly fading away, and you are in that little bubble of light and space where you only see him and hear him, and you hang on every word he speaks. And as that cord began to glow, with the warm of the connection, maybe you were even able to imagine a time in the future, say a few months from now, and still feeling that incredible connection, and looking back on today (self-point) as having been the start of everything wonderful to come in your life?”

Her: Oh yar.

You: “It is so interesting that how some people (motion to her and you) can just do that and let all the good things happen naturally between them (motion between you and her). But for me, it will take longer, but I do find that during the course of a dinner date where you spend quality time and really listen to someone (self-point), and you start to notice and appreciate those values and qualities in them that you hold so dear to yourself..... With me, that is when you can make that connection (motion between you and her) and really feel that growing bond.”

Her: (She probably be thinking about that dreamy date already.)

You: “Hey I really got to go now, but I really enjoyed talking to you, what do you say we get together for dinner sometime??”

Then you wait for the result of what you just said to her, which no man will probably tell her unless they already knew how to do this already.

Good luck!!!